Difficulties with marriage, relationship, depression, anxiety, loss including divorce, internet porn and/or addiction can take us off the path of the life we want. These problems can be hard to make sense of and to talk about, even with the people closest to us. I work actively, listening without judgement, and validating thoughts and feelings to help you reach beyond challenges that are holding you back from living in a truly meaningful and fulfilled way.
What to Expect:First, a non-judgemental approach to clarifying what brings you to therapy and what relief would look like for you. Therapy continues with me aiming to gain a full understanding of your current thoughts and feelings in the context of your whole life experience. As our work together progresses you'll begin to gain new awareness, flexibility in decision making, and a better understanding of yourself and people in your life. A good fit between any client and therapist is critical to the overall success of therapy (in fact, research shows that the inability of therapist and client to form a strong working alliance leads to poor outcomes)- so contact me and I'll be happy to spend some time with you to answer questions you might have and discuss my approach prior to scheduling an initial appointment. Our work together takes place in a comfortable, private environment and is discreet and confidential. Therapy is a process but I want you to experience meaningful change from our first session forward.
My Approach to Therapy for Couples and Individuals:
I am Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist by the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (www.iceeft.com), and have extensive observed training and clinical experience working with distressed couples. My approach to couple counseling and marriage therapy is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT works to foster healthy, secure bonds by recognizing patterns that have become destructive to your relationship. It is not at all concerned with judging or taking sides. EFT is a cost-effective, time-limited (usually 12-20 sessions), active technique, that is highly effective and backed by extensive research. EFT gets to the root of relationship troubles, including healing the pain of affairs and other betrayals, and can help save a marriage that might otherwise end prematurely.
I also offer periodic EFT-based couples workshops that can be a really helpful way to get the process started or to support your current therapy work. These workshops are not intended to be a substitute for therapy.
My approach to individual therapy will depend on your specific circumstances. Stated in general terms, the therapy relationship helps foster self-awareness in a way that encourages you to be less critical and judgemental of yourself and others, and more confident about making the changes that can move you through difficulties and toward what matters most in your life. Contact me and we can discuss in more detail what you're experiencing and how therapy can be helpful. If you describe circumstances that I believe would be better treated by one of my colleagues, or if we're not able to find a meeting time that works, I'll be happy to get you headed in the right direction. If you are in crisis you can reach caring, non-judgmental help at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8255) and a medical emergency room. They have the people and resources to help you stay safe and organize a path forward.
Cornelius (Con) Sheehan, Jr., LCSW
ICCEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist
Clinical Intern Supervisor